Dear Dr. Kilstein,

I am shy and when I walk down the street I get nervous.

When people walk past me, I try to avoid them and try to hide myself.

Can you help me?


Hi Callum,

First of all, here’s some advice from another reader, B. about what worked well for them:

"Hi Dr. Kilstein,

I read Jessica’s e-mail. For overcoming fear of whether it is of socializing or appearing in public, the Overcoming Obstacles technique worked really well for me.

Just wanted to share my experience….

You can get the Overcoming Obstacles symbol, along with the rest of the Finger Healing DVD set, by clicking here:

Secondly, for more help overcoming extreme nervousness and anxiety, you should definitely check out the Physiology of Excellence technique here:

This technique is the fastest way to overcome any fear–simply by changing your mindset.

Once you know this technique, you can instantly flip that "switch" in your brain that tells you to be afraid–flipping it permanently “OFF.”

And thirdly, here’s another great Finger Healing which you can use anytime you’re feeling afraid or anxious, no matter what the reason.

You can use this in tense situations, or take a few minutes every day to relieve your anxious moods:

Sit comfortably with your back straight but not stiff.

Bend your elbows and raise your arms so that your upper arms are parallel to the ground and extended out to the sides.

Hold your hands at ear level.

Spread your fingers and point them to the sky.

Rotate your hands back and forth, pivoting them at the wrists.

Continue for three minutes, then relax.

Breathe long, deep, and slow.

The motion of your hands acts as a vent for your nervous energy and anxiety, releasing it and replacing it with a new and powerful feeling of freedom and relief.

This symbol makes a great stress reliever, so share it with a friend or co-worker–they’ll be sure to thank you.

If you haven’t yet tried the Finger Healing DVD set, click here to discover what you’ve been missing:

Let me know how things are going.


Harlan Kilstein